Jacqueline and I went to the grocery store this morning and got at least a hundred stares. I used to assume that people were looking at my pretty little girl (her golden curls attract a lot of attention). But now it seems that the bandannas get people wondering what is going on. Is she sick? Is she some kind of kook wearing a bandanna? They almost never ask or look at me if I look at them in face.I'll be making a point to at least acknowledge women I see out wearing a bandanna or cap to cover their bald head. Just a smile would go a long way. Just because I'm "sick" doesn't make me invisible. I'm just a woman stocking up on Cheerios and pasta to get through the week of family meals at home.
Of course I happen to have a FENDI scarf to wear which makes it a little more fashionable. Why not seem to care how I look? I'd feel a lot worse if I were always in frumpy sweats and yoga pants with over sized t-shirts. A little make-up, a cute top and a FENDI scarf coupled with sparkling earrings and I'm ready to go out. I might be in chemo but I looked a lot better than the mom in line in front of me. Maybe that's why the stares....
3 comments:
YOU ALWAYS LOOK GREAT.WHEN ONE CONSIDERS ALL THAT YOU HAVE GOING ON, DOING YOUR "DAY TO DAY STUFF" WITH THE KIDS IS MORE SPECIAL. I SEE WOMEN IN YOUR SITUATION FROM TIME TO TIME AND WONDER IF I SHOULD GIVE THEM A NOD OR WISH THEM WELL. I THINK NOW I WILL ACKNOWLEDGE THEM INSTEAD OF PRETENDING "NOT TO NOTICE",LOVE YOU KID, DAD
Puh-lease! You look better than
90% of the babes out there NOT battling cancer.
I will most definitely smile and wish a bandana-mamma well. We all need to stick together to make it through.
XXOO. Love you.
Jenn –
You are spot on when you write, ‘I’d feel a lot worse if I were always in frumpy sweats and yoga pants with over sized t-shirts.'
First of all, from my perspective, you are not “sick.” You are an inspiring heroine who just happens to have an imbalance in her cellular structure ~~ at this moment.
Second, perhaps the people you perceive staring at you might be attributed to the fact that you radiate an inner confidence while stocking up on cheerios and such while wearing a scarf, Fendi, or otherwise.
Most women WITH hair convey discomfort because they feel like a slacker when wearing a baseball cap or scarf when out in public to cover up their bad hair day or lack of taking the time to fix their hair.
You, on the other hand, look fashionable ala Auntie Mame, Grace Kelley, Elizabeth Taylor, etc., and other such screen luminaries.
One of your friends wrote something akin to the fact YOU could bring back scarves, since you you look phenomenal as they accentuate those gorgeous, HUGE eyes the color of courvoisier.
Thirdly, in my most vocal inflections, how do you know they do not wonder if you are an R.U.B.B. (rich urban biker babe)? Many of them wear bandannas frequently.
BTW, have you ever gone to the mall just ot observe how the mass population dresses these days?
After being back in Atlanta, each time I return to Vegas to visit my father, I am astounded at the slovenly dress code that is preferred, especially that i now revel in the Betty Buckheads.
OK – I am officially stepping down from my soap box.
Again, in the immortal words of Billy Cyrstal, YOU, Jennifer Webb, look mah-vel-ous.
And the answer is a resounding YES as to your query, maybe that is why the stares.
Much love,
~ c
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